Love languages? whats that?
Being a newborn, child & family photographer, i don’t just click the button and BAM we are done! I take the time to get to know your child and find out what makes them click. In this blog i’m going to explain the 5 love languages, what they are and what they mean! So grab a coffee or a nice glass of wine and sit back and relax and then take the quiz to find out what yours, or your child’s love language is!
This blog is not only related to children but mostly the relationship between mom and dad, or any kind of relationship really! love? What is it? Do you feel loved by your partner? Do you think you are showing your love to your partner with everything you have? Well, this is where the 5 love languages come in!
When speaking with a friend who is a therapist, she explained to me that everybody feels love in different ways. What do you mean, you ask? Yep I also asked that to. Well there is 5 love languages and everybody in this world including children have a love language. Whatever your love language may be, it is not only the language you need to hear to feel loved but its also how you show love to other people.
So lets get into the nitty gritty and find out what those 5 love languages are!
Words of affirmation.
I think when your a parent or a child carer, this one comes pretty naturally. Telling your child how proud of them you are, or verbal compliments. But us as adults can also have this love language to. I mean who doesn’t love it when their spouse gives them a compliment on how amazing they look? I for one, sure do! For this love language it’s pretty simple. The statements of affirmation don’t have to be complicated. Words mean a lot to this person and little compliments can go a long way! During a family photography session I will continuously give out words of affirmation to the child. This is to let them know they are doing an awesome job.
With this love language I try to incorporate it into all of my family photography sessions. I love to allow the family to sit and play with their children whilst i capture the natural moments as they unfold. Someone with this love language, quite simply, loves to spend quality time with those that they love. And this would not just be sitting on the couch watching television together. It means actually giving each other their undivided attention. In this life, time is everything, you only get time once and not a lot of it, and to this person time is all they want.
We all have multiple demands on our time, yet each of us has the exact same hours in a day. If your mate’s primary love language is quality time , all they simply want is you, being with you and spending time.
For a child or adult, receiving gifts can be any time of the year, whether its on their birthday, at Christmas or even as a reward for doing something. All five love languages challenge us to give to our spouse, but for some, receiving gifts, visible symbols of love, speaks the loudest.A person with this love language, simply loves to receive gifts from their lover. It can be as big as a beautiful diamond necklace, or as small as a handmade gift or a sticker given to a child as a reward. A gift is something physical that they can hold in their hand and say my spouse was thinking of me or they remembered me.
Acts of service.
This love language is not to be confused with gift giving. Acts of service can be something you know your partner would like you to do. Like the laundry. Yes to all you partners out there, some of us would love it if you helped with the laundry from time to time! With this love language you seek to please them by serving them, to express your love for them by doing things for them. Sometimes acts of service do require thought, planning, time, effort and energy. But if its done with a positive spirit, it is sure an expression of love!
By being a child & family photographer, I see this love language in almost every session and I hope to see it to! During a family session I love to show connection between the mother or father and their child together.. Additionally as research shows us, babies who are held, stroked and kissed develop a healthier emotional life than those who are left for long periods of time without physical contact. And by being a child photographer during sessions, and especially during a newborn session where I will hold and cradle the baby as if they were my own. This is to ensure the baby is comfortable and happy. Physical touch is also a powerful vehicle for communicating marital love. Holding hands, kissing, embracing and sexual intercourse are all ways of communicating emotional love to one’s spouse.
The love tank.
Think of your heart as a love tank, in which obviously needs to be filled. If your spouse or partner’s love language is acts of service but your love language is physical touch, then possibly your love tank is not being filled because naturally your partner is speaking their love language to you. Is your love tank full?
Being a child photographer I not only just capture pictures of them, but i get to interact with them and hopefully get to see what makes this child tick. And now not only do i see what makes them that person, but i also get to possibly see what their love language is. Whether i see that from a family session where the child is very affectionate and wants to hug mom all the time, or whether its words of affirmation and the child loves to be told how well they are doing.
When i was told this information, i started to think about all the relationships i have had throughout my life. But not only that it got my brain going, thinking about all the children i have met either through being a child photographer or when taking care of children and wondering what their love language is. Do you know what you child’s love language is?
To find out your love language or your child’s love language, go ahead and click this to take the quiz!
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